Guest blogger and friend Alana Krigger wrote our very first post for our Wellness section! So happy to have her share her wisdom with us today.
As I approached the big 3-0, I reflected on my life and how I ended up being the person I am today. Heck, I contemplate life on the reg, but 30 seemed like a milestone and a great excuse to write something of substance. While I have no regrets and am happy with who I am, here’s what I wish someone would’ve told me 8 years ago. Would I have listened? Who knows! But perhaps this will help open someone else’s eyes.
1. Earn it.
I feel that Generation X experienced college and were perhaps led to believe that they could land their dream jobs immediately after. While that may be true for some, what about the others who do not always find their paths right away?
There’s definitely an expectation I had after graduating from college. I expected 'x’ amount of dollars, a certain level of satisfaction with my job, and rapid upward mobility. I learned this may not always be the case. You have to establish your worth and take on the crappy jobs with the vision that this will all lead to something better. Plant the seeds of hard work and dedication – they’ll harvest and pay off later.
2. Suck it up.
Don’t complain. Okay, vent when you need to, but keep it to a minimum. There is only so much energy you have and wasting it by complaining only takes you away from the present moment, which is truly all we have. You are in control of your attitude, and often your attitude will affect outcomes. If a life situation knocks you down, stand tall and be RESILIENT. Further, don’t allow negative people to drain your energy either.
3. Stop chasing love.
Yeah, yeah, yeah this is a tough one considering the majority of us are motivated by love. Love is after all the core of our existence...the highest frequency. It’s hard because not everyone wants to face life alone and it’s more common than not to enter a relationship to seek someone else to fill a void. Focusing on yourself and finding what makes YOU happy first only leads to finding someone who is on a similar path. Then comes the fireworks and a special someone to share the WOW with. You deserve someone who compliments your life as opposed to complicating it. It’ll come. Whether you are 30 or 70, there will always be opportunities for love.
4. Karma is real!
One of the truest statements to live by is to treat others as you wish to be treated. It is told to us over and over again. Our greatest gift is the power to help others. When you help another, there is no doubt that the favor will be returned to you. Perhaps it won’t be by that particular person, but from someone else. Kindness is right up there too – check your ego and express acts of kindness without a hidden agenda and the fear of what others will think of you. And don’t play games with people, especially in affairs of the heart. Because that ish comes back. Hard.
Sure, situations in life are presented to us, which we may never understand the meaning of. When that happens, there is a lesson, however tough, that must be learned. But that is another blog.
5. Family ties are important.
As life gets busier, we can take family (or the people we have chosen as family) for granted the most because we feel they will always be there. Make the time and cherish them. Additionally, understanding your family is one of the best ways to truly learn about yourself and what makes you who you are. As products of our environments, our upbringing greatly affects us in our adulthood whether we like it or not.
6. Organic relationships matter.
Life is too entirely too short and precious for inauthentic relationships. Spend your time with people on a similar vibe that accept you for who you are. When you find these people, hang onto them and appreciate them. It’s these relationships that can help you the most in life.
7. You’re not all that.
Perhaps one of the biggest ego checks was when a former co-worker told me, “You’re not all that.” I only vaguely remember the context and was probably acting like a know-it-all over some project at work. In the grand scheme of things, it wasn’t going to matter ten years from now. Since then, it has stuck. It seems that we like to believe that we are meant to be something greater than we actually are. When at the end of the day, we are only human. We shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves and feel like we are not good enough when we are not where we think we should be. You are exactly where you need to be right now.
8. Live abroad. Learn a language.
Experiencing other cultures is huge- it teaches compassion, tolerance, oneness... Let’s be real here, most of us Americans choose to live in a stereotypical bubble. Finding a way to live in another country, especially in your 20’s can prove transformational beyond words. Bonus points for learning another language!
9. Get involved in your community.
Give a bit of your heart and volunteer. Participate in a team sport. Start an Adventure Club with friends and select an activity to do together once a month (thanks to Brooke!).
10. Slow down.
This was perhaps the toughest one for me, perhaps that’s why it’s last and I’ve been sitting on it for a couple of days now. In fact, I don’t even remember why I wrote it down in the first place. #slowdownforwhat
I guess it’s because we live in a world that is constantly “Go, go, go!” Taking a timeout can be viewed as a sign of weakness, when in fact it’s just the opposite. Sometimes it’s okay to settle for a slow down, especially after a major life event or to reassess our course and check in with ourselves. This can apply to various aspects of our lives, such as jumping from one relationship to the next due to a fear of being alone...when all you really need is you.